I’d be the first person to tell you it’s important to expect success. I believe firmly that this one mindset shift can make the difference between success and failure most of the time. However, expecting success and invincibility thinking are not the same thing. Invincibility thinking, as opposed to the Myth of Invincibility, is the belief that because ONE thing is going right, EVERYTHING is going right.
For example, believing your finances are perfectly fine because you had a great month of sales. While we can read that example and see the folly in it, it’s not that clear cut when it comes to real life. How many times have you had something get you excited and it changed your whole world view, if only for minutes? When you come down a bit, you see you still have some work to do. That’s not a bad thing and won’t hurt you.
What will hurt you is if you allow that high to pervade into other areas of your life and cause you to start lying to yourself. This is when the trouble happens.
Like being on a high over how well your new car runs at 100 MPH and believing that good feeling will keep you from harm in interstate traffic. Just not going to happen!
Difference Between Optimism and Invincibility Thinking
One of the hardest habits an entrepreneur will try to develop is that of optimism. We have been conditioned from a young age to believe something ALWAYS goes wrong and it WILL cause us to fail. It takes a long time to actually start believing things don’t HAVE to go wrong but if they do, it doesn’t HAVE to mean failure.
An invincible thinker may realize that one hiccup doesn’t spell disaster. However, they are much more likely to believe any victory will expand and fix other areas of their life. The invincible thinker is the person you talk to that had one thing go well for them and they sound like everything else has been fixed.
Here is the distinction I want you to hear. An optimist will have something go right and believe there’s no reason more things won’t follow suit. The invincible thinker believes the others have ALREADY followed suit and then crashes when they realize it isn’t so.
Do you see the danger in that?
How To Be an Optimist Without Falling Into the Invincibility Trap
- Start out every project with the belief that it WILL succeed.
- If you encounter issues, know they don’t HAVE to spell failure.
- Know that if you do fail, you WILL be able to pivot and continue towards your goal with a new approach.
- When you have success, celebrate it and reward yourself somehow. Some time off, a special treat you don’t always eat, anything that marks the occasion.
- DO believe that success CAN expand into other areas of your life! There’s no reason why that positive energy won’t affect many other things.
- Be excited about this possibility!
- DON’T take this victory as an automatic win in EVERY OTHER area of your life. Without dwelling on areas of lack, just let your expectation of success even things out.
- If you do catch yourself thinking invincibly, don’t berate or belittle yourself. Know that you’re human and congratulate yourself for catching it.
- Return to your optimistic expectations and move forward.
Nobody Said This Was Easy
I know the feeling of the dry spell in between victories. We ALL do! As long as you’re committed to keep growing, you’re going to experience failure and setbacks. What you don’t want to happen is having either the failures or the successes cloud your mind with negativity or invincibility.
This is a lifetime practice and will not be mastered five minutes after reading this article. I promise you. Simple does not mean easy. However, if you remain mindful throughout the day you will see the times you slip. Then, just make a simple mindset shift and get back to creating your awesome life. If you need help anytime during the day clearing away mental junk, I would recommend you try my free Five Minute Mental Tune-Up. This practice will help you get back to even keel.
When Have YOU Been Caught Thinking Invincibly?
Have you had experience with this? Did you have a major victory that left you utterly blind to a lurking disaster? Did you catch it in time or did invincibility thinking cause you to ignore something else to your peril? How did you recover from it? How did it change how you start your day? Leave me a comment below and let’s talk about it!
I want to hear from you. This article came from a discussion I recently had with a friend of mine where I had completely misunderstood a victory they’d had. It was my understanding that it was a win on many fronts but that wasn’t entirely accurate. It wasn’t their fault either. I was the one who made the invincible assumption. They were fully aware the success was in ONE area and not multiple areas.
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