Those Five People Redux
I believe it was Jim Rohn who is credited with saying “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with“. This is usually in regards to income but it has farther reaching consequences than that. I know in my own life, those five people right now tend to think a LOT alike, have the same outlook on life AND have very similar incomes. So, the answer seems obvious. Just dump your friends and family who are NOT where you want to be and find replacements that ARE. Like some mentors.
We ALL know it’s just not that simple. Not only can we not just leave our family and friends (many of whom have supported us during tough times) but that just doesn’t feel right to us.
So, what CAN we do?
I can give you some quick tips like limiting the time you spend with people who don’t inspire or add to you; schedule time each week and don’t exceed it for anything. You can also simply not return calls until you have time and are in a good mental state to handle them. These are just some quick fixes. I have a feeling I’ll be dealing with more tactics to, if not eliminate them, control your exposure to them in the future. But, let me continue with another tactic I think is a great starting point for any aspiring successful entrepreneur: finding mentors.
Get Some Virtual Mentors
Do a google search for either successful blogs in your niche or just search your current favorite blog to see if they have relationships or stories about their mentors. Then do some research and pick five virtual mentors whose books, blogs, podcasts or YouTube channel you can follow to keep them handy when you need a boost. Now, I’m not talking about spending your whole day listening to podcasts or reading blog posts either. Schedule time for this research as you do any other important goal on your weekly list. Do NOT exceed this time for anything! Just like that friend you meet with because you’ve known each other forever, spend the time and move on to something else. Your time is valuable, after all!
Is That All There Is To It, Jeff?
In a word, NO! This is just a beginning but it IS an important step. I still hear successful entrepreneurs who have all kinds of physical mentors they actually sit down to lunch with (or at least talk to) every week who STILL follow thought leaders in their niche and beyond. This is NOT just for the beginner. Like I said, this is a process that you can continue your whole life!
Once you gain traction in your niche and business, you will find more opportunities to meet or talk to people in person. That is the necessary progression.
Virtual Mentors Are NOT For Losers!
Before I go, I want to be crystal clear on one point: just because you only have virtual mentors right now it doesn’t make you less of an entrepreneur. The most important thing is you realize you do NOT have to do this alone. You do NOT have to be responsible for your mindset control 24 hours a day! We ALL need help and should enlist it from whatever source we can get it from.
What would make you a loser? That would be refusing to look outside yourself for help when you need it or having too big an ego to admit somebody else knows something you don’t. Failing to see how much help is available if you’re really looking for it would be the ultimate failure. NOT trying to surround yourself with people who think like you want to think one day or are living a life you aspire to.
My Personal Journey Here
Throughout my recent years, I have sought out virtual mentors with success. If I have a failing it would be I often looked for too many mentors. That is also not a good thing. It won’t take long before they contradict each other and leave you even more confused about which way to go. Start small and build slowly. I’m not saying look only for mentors that agree with you or each other. Just try not to find them all over the map.
For the last year, I have been a member of Yaro Starak’s the Laptop Lifestyle Academy (formerly Entrepreneur’s Journey Insider) community. Little by little, I’ve made connections with successful entrepreneurs (and some newbies too) that have helped me and that I too have helped. It is such a great feeling to know there are others who are going through what you are or have already been through it! I have gained so much from these virtual relationships.
Recently, I decided to go all in and I purchased his flagship course, Blog Mastermind. This is an intensive, six week course that is designed to get you from your idea to your first sale online. The list of success stories from people who have taken it was just too long to ignore! This decision came as a direct result of my interaction with this community and the creator himself. Again, the mentors coming back to help push me along.
How Are You Doing With This?
I’d like to hear how you’ve found your mentors. Did you start with virtual mentors? Or did you add them after you had established a number of physical mentors? I’d especially like to hear from anyone who tore it off like a bandaid and just dumped everybody that no longer supported them! I would find this fascinating because it is not something I would be comfortable with right now at all.
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Here’s to your success,