Which of Your Victories Count?
I believe from an early age we are taught to celebrate big things. Holidays, birthdays, graduations, etc. You know, BIG things! Same goes for your victories or accomplishments. We get a job, get promoted, make our first $1000.00 online. These types of things. We are, for some reason, taught to withhold our celebration for ONLY the things that we set as long or short term goals. In other words, things that are somehow seen as an “end” to a project or goal or mission. Does this sound familiar?
The thing I don’t understand about this is that nothing big is ever achieved without stringing together many (and sometimes VERY many) small victories. If that’s the case, how is it possible that we’ll ever get from $20,000.00 in credit card debt to making $20,000.00/month in our business? Your not going to just wake up one morning and say “Gee, I sure am glad I was able to go to sleep in debt and wake up incredibly successful”, right? That process will take some time to complete. How are we to stay motivated if we feel like none of the steps in the process mean anything or warrant any special jubilation? How many unsuccessful people that you know are still striving for that ONE big score? I’ll bet a lot more than you know.
Without getting into a technical discussion of goal setting and achievement I’d like to put an end to one of things that’s definitely holding you back. Namely, not celebrating ALL of your victories.
Each Step Matters
My feeling is if it was important enough for you to include it in your step by step goal achievement journey, then it is definitely important enough to celebrate it when it’s complete. Do you honestly believe you’ll get tired of making a positive mental connection with each accomplishment? No. What you will do is reinforce the habit of goal achievement because you won’t be able to wait for your next celebration. It’s almost Pavlovian in its simplicity.
Do something good. Reward yourself. Anticipate the next victory. Rinse and repeat. There you go! I can say from personal experience that momentum you create from the small stuff will help push you through to the bigger stuff when times get tough.
Does It Have To Be Only Goal Oriented?
Absolutely not! The positive emotions you generate by celebrating any kind of victory help make your day go smoother. They make your contact with other humans more pleasant and productive. They just help you feel good about you as a person which can only help every aspect of your life.
Let me give you an example from my own life recently. Yesterday, I had lunch with a friend. I got ready and somehow completely forgot I needed to leave early so I could shop before I had lunch. You know what I did? I told myself I could still pull it off and I did. Because I hadn’t left early enough, I had to do some shopping after lunch in what is a very congested area of town. Especially at lunch time. I made myself do it anyway.
When I got home, I simply thought to myself “Hey Jeff, I’m glad you picked that stuff up” and kind of dropped it. Later on that day it dawned on me how much I’d actually accomplished. That’s when the fist pumping and self-congratulating began. End result: I felt my effort had really been rewarded even if it was me doing it-LOL! Later, my wife thanked me which was the icing on the cake!
It doesn’t have to be huge or laser focused. ANY time you go above and beyond (even if you’re not successful) you need to be celebrating your victories! This leads me to a final point I would like to make.
They Don’t Only Have To Be YOUR Victories
Like my wife thanking me for picking up the dog food, paying attention to another human being and congratulating them on their victory is huge! Thanking them for anything they’ve done to make your life easier will add fuel to both of your accomplishment fires. How many times have you heard that anger burns the angry? Well, the same is true for praise and appreciation. You’ll get back twice what you give when you celebrate somebody else’s victory! Does this make sense and feel right to you?
Let Me Hear From You
Have you been stingy praising yourself and reserving that positive energy only for the “big things” whatever they are? Have you kicked yourself out of a funk by congratulating yourself for even a small victory? Have you felt the synergistic effect of giving praise for a small victory to another? Leave a comment and tell us your experience with this.
And finally, congratulate yourself for reading this article. You didn’t have to. I know that and I thank you as well! Don’t be stingy with yourself!